Decisiveness and assertiveness go hand-in-hand. I have not seen a person with just one. Businesses prize and pay well for both. Being decisive cuts down time and adds to efficiency and confidence, and confidence is needed for every facet of life. Skill can only do so much, as what we know only accounts for a part of our happiness and successes in life. Confidence is a great asset for the rest.
There are two ways to get better at making decisions.
No matter what way you look at it, decision-making is tedious and takes precious energy. Eliminate possessions, cleaners, errands, and chores as much as possible. Especially focus on the small, regular things during elimination. Being mindful will lead to efficiency and a harmony while getting ready or tidying a house. Necessary activities will remain familiar. Unfamiliarity leads to a lack of productivity because anything unfamiliar or complex takes the most energy.
In court reporting school, we trained our fingers to sustain 3-4 strokes a second accurately. There were big dreams that hinged on our ability to force our strokes from choppy hesitancy to fluid competency. It seems impossible to learn a language and speak it fluently in as little as a year, but perhaps we don’t give our brain enough credit. I pushed myself sometimes to the verge of tears, and there were many things sacrificed for dreams. Holidays and health, there was almost no price that I would not pay, to be able to practice. Some weeks, there was no progress to show for the intensity. Some days, I could see a step back. But I knew that with consistency and attention, the desired result would come around for me. Intensity in practice will lead you to where you want to go. Where you think you are pushing yourself hard enough, you will find that the mind can still go on, where the body gives out. This is not to say to kill yourself to make a quick decision, but that pushing yourself on tasks you’d like to improve eventually leads to effortlessness.
When deciding on what to buy big and small, who to hang out with, where your passion lies, trust intuition more. We overthink too much. We calculate, as if everything can be quantified in dollars or joy. Value goes beyond obvious price. We can’t calculate accurately, no matter how sharp our minds are, as there are too many arenas to consider: effort, compatibility, price, quality. So then be pragmatic and trust intuition more: These thoughts and feelings, all your experiences up to now, can produce a quick and favorable result. Good enough is more than what we call it; where energy and time is saved, good enough can elevate to the best decision, even after extensive consideration. For the 10% more in possible improvement in a chore, maybe we exert an expensive 30% extra in effort and time. To settle for the 90% good enough then is not settling, but it is being smart, finding balance. We have to trust ourselves and others more.
The next time you shop or declutter, take those moments as the opportunities they are: to sharpen the ability and speed with which to identify importance. Being in touch with feelings (values) and intuition makes the world we all love.
Though the business world primarily rewards analysis, feelings give us a world to work for. Feelings sustain relationships, health, and make us come alive.
Feelings, thought, and experience combine to give us intuition, which if we are attentive to, can act instantaneously and accurately, appearing almost magical. Intuition is simply a heightened awareness of everything we’ve gathered up to this point and and a habitual consideration of the future in decision-making. Intuition is forward-thinking and valuable, so it is something worth the effort to trust and to find.