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There are many injustices in the world and many salespeople.  People vacillate between realism and hype, and we have to decide, what is the right mindset to have.  A forced, loud MLM optimism has minimal appeal to most people, as incessant pessimism has no utility for many others.   There are many things that weigh down on reality.  A lot of what weighs down reality is how we focus. I don’t think it is productive to live with the focus on what lacks, though it comes naturally for me: to focus on what needs improvement, or on what is missing.

I think that the mindset that people are good in the world, even though there is good and bad in all of us, and that the future is going to be bright is the only one that adds to health and productivity, which are two goals that add to brighter tomorrows.  There are injustices in this world, toward women, toward minorities, toward the planet, toward animals and children, but I cannot help but live like all is right in the world.  I don’t know how much I can change in myself, but I have to live like I could change everything.  Let reality decide at the end what I could have and not have.

If I live in fear or anxiety, with constant awareness of all that is lacking, of all the news of the day and the fears of others, then I would be making the world more of the same because fear and anxiety of my own would manifest.  A misplaced focus will not make for a healthy individual, ready to rise to each occasion with a level head.  If there is something I can do, some way I can spend, something I can say, then let it be.  But a mind should be free and healthy, until each opportunity presents itself.

The best way to deal with reality is with the two things that make reality better: optimism and action.  It is not wrong to be a dreamer, when you are a dreamer that implements dreams.

We cannot help but to put out what we are.  A healthy individual will make the world a healthier place.  A realist will keep the status quo.  It is not wrong to dream, when we put people before ideas, and when we move our dreams into the physical realm.  In this way, reality can begin to resemble more of a symphony, than a collision.

Our thoughts design reality.  Our actions and possessions are extensions of what we can dream and do.  It is not foolhardy to reject reality, to tell it to try again, to adjust it to a useful and pleasant state.

Anger and anxiety come from a place of fear.  Sometimes reality makes us afraid, and in those instances, it is better to focus on any optimistic strand we can grab.  To cling to optimism is not cowardly or naive; it is the only way through, toward a reality on the end worth holding.




6 thoughts on “Mindset

  1. Wow Melody – I am speechless. The way this insightful truth has been explained has created a (gulp) a-ha moment for me. This reading has brought me to a realization, a problem I’ve always struggled with. Although, it has been said many times before “be positive, you create your reality”, your explanation really resonated. You are very wise and are helping many people with your work, ( YouTube and this wonderfully simple brief 🙂 thank you

  2. I truly enjoy your YouTube videos & blog. I would love seeing a complete review of your entire wardrobe & closet.

  3. Melody,
    I try very hard to be thoroughly honest with myself and pride myself on my realism. Unfortunately this can lead me towards depression as I face the truth of what currently is, my current situation, challenges, flaws, etc. I am beginning to realize that optimism is actually also a truth: the truth of what could be. Focusing on a better outcome is just as valid as predicting a worse one – as long as you follow through with action. Thank you for writing this post!

  4. I recently saw a sign on a gas station store door:

    Don’t dwell on what is lost, take care of what is left behind.

    Just thought I’d share it with you here.
    Thanks for keeping up your work here and on YT!

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